Week 10 – Go for it!

“I will persist until I succeed!” (Og Mandino – Greatest Salesman in the World).
One of my favorite sentences to go along these two:
– “Great habits are the key to all succes.”
– “I will greet this day with love in my heart.”

It’s funny how you can affirm how your day is going to be with just one sentence. But we’ve learned something very important on this subject. It’s true that we can speak life or death with our words, but there’s a twist. If we think and speak positive things for just 10 minutes, we won’t get anywhere. We have to do it the majority of the time. We can’t be positive for 10 minutes and expect to be that way for the remainder of the day. It takes more. We have to persist.

Charles Haanel explained that man should learn how to put causes into play. Everybody knows that thoughts are causes and conditions are effects. Few weeks ago I shared a SMART goal. Looking at my own progress, I’m down another few kg because I caused (healthy meals/exercise) it (better shape) to happen. Just under 8 kg to go. 7 weeks left. It’s been years since I’ve seen my abs again.

There are many things that factor in the outcome of your desires. What’s written in Scroll III of the Greatest Salesman is a part that consists of a greater whole. In our adventure, we are all shaping that great whole. The Law of Growth aids us as we grow into our higher selves. Self-directed human beings powerful enough to manifest desired conditions effortlessly. All we have to think about is the cause.

It’s simple, but that doesn’t make it easy, since these two words have nothing to do with each other. We have to cause. Thinking about causing something to happen for yourself? Go for it!

Persist!

Week 9 – Finky and the Brain

Thanksgiving is not celebrated in the Netherlands, but I do give thanks. Below is something I’m very thankful for.

The Science behind the world within

Most people believe the big lie about the brain. It’s that “people are either left brain or right brain thinkers”. In other words, if you’re all about facts and numbers, you’re a left brain thinker, and if you’re all about concepts and feelings, you’re a right brain thinker. Science has proved that we are not merely left brained or merely right brained. If that was the case, then we wouldn’t be able to function.

Why is this important? Because if we don’t base all our life’s strategies on the truth, then they’re doomed to fail. In influencing the subconscious mind to make us do daily habits conducive to our success, we must learn exactly how the brain works.

Haanel stated in the Master Key Systempart 6 – passage 7:
“We are accustomed to examining the mechanism of the implements which we use for tilling the soil, and we try to get an understanding of the mechanism of the automobile which we drive, but most of us are content to remain in absolute ignorance of the greatest piece of mechanism which as ever come into existence, the brain of man.”

In comes Gerald R. Fink’s study of the two hemispheres of the brain. This shifted the world’s conventional views about the workings of the brain. For a lot of us, this study assisted in developing confidence in our ability to exert faith around the daily MKMMA exercises. What’s started from intuition, is being supported by concrete evidence.

It proved that the left brain (all about information) and right brain (all about concepts) need to work together. If you only operate on information, and don’t have the ability to form a picture out of the information, then you’re a sitting duck. Also, if you only have a vision, but don’t know how to put that vision into practice, then you’re only daydreaming.

To get the two hemispheres to work together, we have the corpus callosum. It can be seen as a bridge between the two. You want to drive a car? Then that impulse goes from right brain to left brain and manifests itself into a plan of action to get a driver’s license. Then it travels back into the right brain and there you’re thinking about what color car you want. Now goes back to the left side to think of methods to obtain that car. This goes on until the initial thought impulse is materialized to its physical equivalent.

Very exciting!

Corpus Callosum

Some people prefer the information first, other people prefer the concepts first. What’s your preference?

Many of us have our Definite Major Purpose written down, illustrated in pictures, recorded in words, affirmed in readings, and more. To know that our faith is backed by hard science is something I’m truly thankful for.

Week 8 – Presenting to the Subby

Just a quick experience share here.

Like most people, I used to feel bad about myself for the countless mistakes, failures and shortcomings I’ve had in my life. So much so that I developed an addiction to those debilitating feelings. Last year I learned that “every adversity has the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit”, as Napoleon Hill said. At first it didn’t seem plausible to me, but as time went by, I understood why he said that. That “seed” of an equivalent or greater benefit is a lesson. It’s the seeds (lessons) that till the soil (mastery).

So I simply made an inventory of my lessons and re-examined my goals.

In week 5, I mentioned the first of my SMART goals: shedding 12 kg (26.5 lbs) within 3 months. In just 3 weeks, I’m already down 4 kg (8.8 lbs). It’s great to be ahead of schedule, but what’s working for me? About a month and half ago, I presented to my subconscious mind the idea of me being in world-class shape. I now do this every day by ways of active and passive suggestion. For example, sitting for 15 minutes, thinking about the future self. Another example, looking at and touching the SMART goal filled Colored Shapes mentioned in Week 7’s post. These are just tidbits from the list of daily things we do in the MKMMA experience to harness our potential.

For slimming down, I always had the right programs, methods and advices. I knew what to do and how to do it, but I never knew how to make that consistency ease for me. Thanks to what I’m learning recently, I’ve been able to pepper my mind with suggestions that trigger feelings of achieving my life’s authentic desires. It’s so amazing, it goes beyond the “life hack” level!

Some people may know, that it takes 3-4 weeks to build a habit. I coupled what I learned recently with my general knowledge of behaviors. In the Influencer by Joseph Grenny, it’s explained that focusing on results is not effective. Focusing on behaviors however is effective. Normally folks try to create a whole washing list of do’s and don’ts. I used to do that too. This time, it’s just 3 vital behaviors (do’s) to execute every day. One hour walk (got rid of my bycicle, I only walk now), 3 liters of water, 6-7 healthy meals. Basketball practices/games are the extra mile. I have no clue what the in between results are daily, but I do know that the behaviors are getting me there way ahead of time.

Week #7- Understanding fear through meditation.

A true masterpiece by Maria Khakhalkina.

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“Fear is false evidence appearing real” Zig Ziglar.

Fear…will be the topic of this blog. It is a huge topic and it is possible to discuss it for days, connecting it with different events in life, mental, physical and spiritual health or disease for that matter, state of mind and learned limitations, Should’s and Should-not’s, procrastinations and other habits that goes under the same roof, low self-esteem, lack of faith & courage, indecisiveness, anger, worrying, separation and that list can go on and on and on for hours…

Can you even imagine what this fear does to our Self? What it pushes us to create in that fearful state of mind? How many fears we learn already in our early childhood, and how all of it becomes so close to us and we start believe it is our own thoughts and even worse – that it is true.

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Week 7 – No, My Future Self Is My Best Friend!

You may have heard that karma is: “What goes around, comes around.” It’s really deeper than that. Karma is understanding that we all make decisions. Even indecision is a decision. Each and every decision has a consequence. “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction”, science says. Last week, thanks to T.A. Pychyl’s study Solving the Procrastination Puzzle, we discovered how fMRI’s revealed that we see our future self as a stranger, so we procrastinate investing in things that’ll benefit us in the future, because our future self a total stranger. So when we put off the things that we don’t want to do, we’re giving the problem to our future self. In this Masker Key experience, we’ve learned how to help ourselves by developing passive ways to ourselves create and develop intimacy with our respective future selves, eliminating procrastination. Our brains now recognize the benefit of being best friends with our future self.

The karmic questions we ask ourselves:

  • What are the consequences of the choice I’m making?
  • Will this choice bring fulfillment and happiness to me and those affected by this choice (future self)?

We started last week in earnest with shapes, colors and SMART goals (scheduled, measurable, achievable, realistic and timed). These colored shapes were taped around our houses, work offices and cars, all placed in areas of which we have most of our vision directed to. We’ve already started that environment to develop intimacy with our future selves. This environment we set up is one where we and our future selves can meet in the present, become acquaintances with each other and with consistency become friends. Once that future self is a real, genuine friend, something really special happens – way past eliminating procrastination. There’s an old saying: “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” We will lay down our lives for our future self. Eventually we will lay down our lives of limitation we currently have (“Lives of quiet desperation”, according to Henry Thoreau). We will let our old self (Old Blueprint) die for the higher self (New Blueprint) we were always intended to be. “It is by dying that one awakens to eternal life.”

Week 6 – My Future Self Is a Stranger?!

You might have noticed my Week 6 blog is late. I’m being honest. I’ve procrastinated. This should have been posted last week. Felt horrible for a few days, but I’m digging in, and it feels great to be back on track.

Learned some bombshell information last week!!!

Let’s talk about why we proscrastinate.

So why do we procrastinate? Well, because we are emotional beings, we want to avoid feeling negative emotions evoked by an undesirable task or something else that’ll delay us from doing what we want to do. In simple terms: we feel bad about unpleasant tasks.

A few blogs before I talked about delay gratification, and how utterly difficult it is to do that in a fast paced, instant gratification society. One thing I know about myself is that I’m a good writer, but that doesn’t mean that I like doing it. So I delay it.

It gets worse. What we’re really doing is, we give this problem to our future self. That person that we’re all trying to become. In this remarkable study Solving the Procrastination Puzzle by Timothy A. Pychyl, it’s found that fMRI’s were tested on a few people. At the time, they were asked to think about the following 3 things:
– their present self;
– a stranger; and
– their future self.

Here’s the bombshell!

The subjects saw their respective future self exactly the same as a stranger!

WOW!!!

Our future self, the person who we all affirm ourselves into becoming. The incredible ideal person we want to be. A complete stranger?!!

Thus we procrastinate investing in things that’ll advance our values and help us in the future, because our future self is a total stranger! We basically ask ourselves: “What’s in it for us to help this stranger?”

Picture this: somebody you completely don’t know contacts you and asks you if you can assist him/her in fixing his/her car. Would you do it…? For a stranger…? Most likely, you wouldn’t.

How about your best friend? Somebody you know and love. Would you help fix his/her car? Most probably you would.

Here’s the killer.

Now, what if the person who holds the master key to all your life’s dreams, wishes and desires is in need of help. Would you help him/her? You bet you would!

That person, is your future self.

Of course you’re going to help him/her. Why delay, when it’s worth it in gold? You’d be doing it instantly!

I’ve known for a long time that this is what helped me get over the gratification thing and actually get stuff done. I just didn’t know how to put it in words. Now I’m able to illustrate it in a blog post. I’m more than priviledged to call my future self my best friend! This is the feller to please, as mentioned in the Guy in the Glass.

Every now and then I tend to forget what the theme of this blog is. It’s to unfold the authentic self within. Procrastination is just a product from the world without. I’ve been dwelling in that place for a little too long last week. Now I’m right back in the world within, we’re I can talk to my future self. He’s rooting for me!

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Week 5 – Picking Up the Pace

No Opinions

We’ve completed over a month of the 6 month MKMMA course. Think are starting to speed up.

As each day passes, each one of us is becoming more and more of a non-judgemental Observer. Many exercises are being completed. The compounding effect is taking place. Last week we gave up giving 80-90%. From now on, we give 100%, with complete fidelity to the process of being self-directed thinkers.

One of the key exercises for Week 5 was the No Opinion exercise. Just like how it’s called, we are to be conscious of our urge to dish out opinions. The only exception is when we are experts on the subject at hand. Anything else? Give it gracious thought and live and let live. I myself have had ups and downs with this particular exercise, since I’m trying to restrain a 20+ year old habit and replace it with an embryonic new habit – one of self-control and observation. It’s been a fight, but without challenge, there’s no change, and day by day I’m getting better at it. More on this in the next post.

Law of Compensation

As I paraphrase what’s stated in the essay written by the great Ralph Waldo Emerson, the Law of Compensation is omnipresent. It’s can be summarized as: “Give more, get more.”

Whenever you blurt out a knee-jerk opinion, you meet a compensatory response – an opinion back. You smile at somebody, and that person smiles back. You exert hard work, and the fruits of that labor appear before your very eyes. In my case, I play a lot of basketball. You may have heard of the old saying: “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” I have some excess weight I want to shed within the next 3 months to prevent my legs from being overworked: 12 kg (26.5 Ibs).

Since two weeks ago, I’ve been taking one hour walks daily, coupled with eating healthy meals and drinking 3 liters of water. I already get lots of cardio from playing ball. Soon I’ll jump on the spin bike to do some HIIT. I’ve gotten rid of a few pounds, which is exciting, but expected. Now I know I’m stating the obvious, but everybody knows that success is something you get in return for what you’ve given to achieve it (“give more, get more”). What people don’t realize is, that success therefore is simply a compensation. This insight should make it easier to understand how to achieve your SMART (scheduled, measured, achievable, realistic & timed) goals, because you now know that a compensation is expected for what you give.

Keep giving to keep growing.

Week 4 – Intense Memories

Learned something magnificent last week!

I want to ask you to do this little 1 minute exercise for me. Trust me, it’ll blow your socks off!

Find a quiet place. I want you to really focus now.

Okay, ready?

• First, think back to a time when you experienced something awful. Could be a family tragedy 8 years ago, a financial disaster 5 years ago, or anything else that you consider a horrible event in your past.

• Close your eyes and think about it for a half minute or so. Search your feelings and try to remember how this event felt for you? Does it make you feel as mad, as sad. as scared, as when it first happened?

Probably not, because back then you felt it for the first time.

• Now we’ll do the opposite and have you think back to a time when you experience something delightful. Could be your graduation day, your first kiss, your daughter’s wedding, winning a championship, etc.

• Close your eyes and think about it. Really dig deep and feel it out. Do you feel as empowered? As proud? As excited?

More likely.

This is excellent! See, I realized this truth when I thought about the death of my uncle in 2006. Surely, the painful feeling of loss and grief was intense at the time. But for some reason, the intensity of that feeling is much lower when I think about it now.

However, when I think back to my first graduation day, it’s a whole different outcome. Obviously I felt terrific, but when I think about it now, the intensity level is still very high!

Once we taste something good, we want more! My good friend Claes Wallenberg mentioned mini-DMPs and how they can help you achieve your whole DMP over time. The subconscious can be trained that way. Focus on achieving something relatively easy to achieve and have your subby taste that sweet feeling of pride and joy. Then, up the ante slightly and go for it!

In Week 1, I mentioned that thoughts charged with feeling creates a belief. This belief dictates your actions and actions lead to results (mini-DMP to DMP).

Now that you know you feel a stronger intensity with positive recreated feelings than the negative ones, you’ll have an easier time putting in the work to forge your New Blueprint!

Have fun! 😉

Daily exercises:

– Part 4 of the Master Key System
– Scroll 1 of The Greatest Salesman in the World
– Your purpose statement (see Week 3)

Week 3 – Pyramids!

No, not the ancient Egyptian triangular structures, or the shape of a certain businessmodel.

Last week we talked about changing our ‘blueprint’, meaning our thinking/habitual attitude/belief system around achieving something. I also mentioned that most people, about 95% actually, lead lives of quiet desperation. It should give you a clue.

About a year ago, I was taught that our achievement level is ‘pre-set’, before we even think about achieving something.

STOP

Read that again.

Our achiement level is pre-set, before we even think about achieving something!

What’s that clue I was talking about?

The Old Blueprint.

But we’re not going down that road. We’re got different plans! We’re forging a New Blueprint with the help of repeated, positive affirmations (auto-suggestion) to our subconscious minds.

All of the participants, including me, have formed a Definiteness (I love this word) of Purpose, as explained in Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich.

Following the instructions as explained in the chapter of this book exercise, you’ll be able to make your own purpose statement. Use this to perfection to get your subconscious to work with you, instead of against you.

One of the greatest basketball coaches and human being ever, John Wooden, said: “Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.” For decades he worked on creating his own success pyramid:

John R. Wooden's Pyramid of Success

As you can see, the foundation of this pyramid is industriousness (I love this word too) and enthusiasm. You put in the work (industriousness) to create your own purpose statement, and through autosuggestion read it oud loud with electrifying enthusiasm, then you’re forming a New Blueprint. And you’re well on your way to manifesting your wildest dreams!

Here’s another pyramid. Most people have heard about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Here at the MKMMA, we choose to focus on what’s called: Personal Pivotal Needs. There are seven PPNs:
– Legacy (e.g. willing a big family compound to kids/grandkids)
– Liberty (e.g. having enough money to go on a world trip)
– Autonomy (e.g. living on your own terms, debt free, answering only to your self)
– Spiritual Growth
– Helping Others
– True Health (physically and mentally)
– Recognition for Creative Expression (e.g. having fans praising your music, having spectators cheering for your football game, receiving props from your parents for “making it” in your field of work, being respected for your community work.)

These are the oxygen for your soul. They are the ultimate goals of anyone’s life. The purpose of our being. Key thing here is to choose two of the seven. The other five needs will be filled on your way to achieving the two that you chose. Mine are Liberty and Recognition for Creative Expression. What are yours?

Daily exercises:

Part 3 of the Master Key System
Scroll 1 of The Greatest Salesman in the World
Your very own purpose statement