Week 17 – Permission

As the old adage goes: “Stay focused on the basics.”

When we do that and execute the basics of our venture, we tend to excel at what we do. Our attention equals our intention. We stay aware of the wonder of self-discovery; the Hero’s Journey and little tasks that develop into concepts and characteristics that manifest our Definite Major Purpose. The source of our power will help us combat any temptation or distraction that tries to veer us away from what we have to do to achieve what we want.

“Success is contingent upon a higher ideal than mere accumulation of riches. He who aspires to success must formulate an ideal for which he is willing to strive. With such an ideal in mind, the ways and means can and will be provided. There must be a definite fixed purpose, an ideal.”
– Part 16, The Master Key System

Our business or job works in the exact same manner. We are holding an ideal. To hold this ideal, we must become the observer. This requires focus. The power of a mastermind enhances focus, which keeps us on track with planning and taking the correct actions.
“If you enter into the discipline necessary to bring about a radical change in your life, you must do so deliberately, after giving the matter careful thought and full consideration, and then you must allow nothing to interfere with your decision.”
– Part 14, The Master Key System

We are nature’s greatest miracle. We can either be the observer and notice how everything in our life is something we can be grateful for, or we can take everything for granted. As Einstein once said: “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

Check out Mark J giving out free hugs.

Knowledge doesn’t apply itself. The only way to apply knowledge is through conscious effort. Shout praise from the top of the roofs, compliment others, give without expectation of reciprocity and you’ll develop a feeling of abundance within yourself. When we focus in the virtue within others and helping them achieve a different outcome for themselves, they will partner us and ride with us all the way.

We earnestly desire kindness, we assert claim of kindness and we take kindness. We keep looking for kindness, keep giving kindness, keep noticing kindness and being kindness, until kindness engulfs us.

We all have the power to learn with ease, to carry out actions we have to do with joy and to feel powerful and happy. It all starts with our thoughts. Have we given ourselves permission to access that power in our world within? And have we given ourselves permission to be happy? Our soul is rooting for us. Our Creator wants us to have it. It’s up to us to give ourselves permission to be powerful and to be happy NOW.

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Week 15 & 16 – Kindness & Virtue

Big time post today. You might want to grab a beverage or get a cup of coffee, because I got lots to cover. Here’s what I like to share about my latest experience. 

Everybody knows, all human beings have two basic feelings: pain and pleasure.

Plants and animals do not have a choice as to what they associate pain and pleasure with. As humans, we have a choice (Law of Dual Thought) and we can associate what’s painful or pleasurable. A very cool application for the Law of Dual Thought is called NARC. Stand for Neurological Associative Reactive Conditioning. With this application, we can leverage our mind and chose what’s painful or pleasurable.

Works kind of like this:

“I hate talking to people!” – “I love talking to people!”

“I feel sad” – “I feel outstanding!”

We are not made to tolerate pain. We have a tendency to recoil from things that are considered painful. We do repeat things that are pleasurable. A very good example of a painful feeling is failing. Our fear of failure can get us to avoid engaging the traction points (money making areas) of our business, like making calls and talking to new prospects. This fear is fueled by not knowing what to say. All kinds of self-attacking thoughts would run through one’s head. I experienced all this, got really nervous around the phone, felt very discouraged and outright angry. It didn’t matter if I forced myself to dial, the thought alone of somebody picking up terrified me. This was in no way a pleasant feeling. Prospects can sense fear of someone over the phone. They sure picked it up from me. I was afraid of the outcome, because I didn’t know what to say. Nobody wants to work with a business where the most important traction point brings pain!

But I soon realized that I didn’t actually have fear of the phone itself. This is a myth. I imagined that if, God forbid, one of my family members suddenly collapsed and isn’t responding, would I be afraid to pick up the phone and call for an ambulance? Of course not, so it must be about what I say and do!  Not about how rude the prospects are, how much ambition a prospects has or if he’s “a good prospect”. It’s about me!

NARC was introduced to me about two weeks ago. It confirmed a lot of things for me. It got me to reaffirm that I CAN do this. All I need are skills on what to do and what to say. And in my first posts I’ve talked about how work eliminates fears. No fear can stop me. I now see every opportunity to talk to a new person a golden opportunity. You never know what that person can mean to you.

Before, I was discouraged. I got mad at them. I was scared. I was angry. The ones who found pleasure in recruiting were succeeding. The ones like me who found it painful were failing. And eventually I found myself avoiding the one thing I needed to expand: the traction point. Making calls and talking to people. Seeing other people go for their definite major purpose allowed me to effortlessly attach pleasure to making calls and to attach pain to not making calls. Pleasure and pain attached to the same thing with ease.

I remember a good old, old, old, OLD friend of mine. Iraqi guy, about a half year younger than I am. We used to visit each other a lot, about 8 years ago. Then suddenly we grew apart and never got into contact with each other until recently, when he visited me. When we last saw each other around 2005. He was a scrawny 15 year old kid. Now he’s a 23 year old bodybuilder!! Total surprise, I never had a clue!

I asked him: “How in the world did you…?” and before I let me finish, he told me: “I enjoy what I do. You just go for your dreams.”

I was shocked. This is the same kid I knew when he was “yay big and this tiny”. He worked over 5 and a half years on his body. Doing every traction point, training in the gym, for more than half a decade consistently. No breaks, total focus, alongside a partner of his, who was already where he initially wanted to be. Now they’re both in competitions, getting massive recognition as accomplished athletes, living their dream.

This made me more than proud. Seriously, I was inspired to witness first hand that young men from my own country can do great things. I told him: “You may be bigger than me, but you’re still my little brother”.

Og Mandino had me reading the following profound message to myself:
“I am the end product of thousands of years of evolution; therefore, I am better equipped in both mind and body than all the emperors and wise men who preceded me. But my skills, my mind, my heart, and my body will stagnate, rot, and die lest I put them to good use.”
The Greatest Salesman in the World

Truth bomb! We have are more advanced in so many ways. We have learned from our elders, grand elders and ancestors. We have more knowledge, more skill, better technology and more resources. The faster we learn, the more we retain.

I was assigned to take a list of 11 virtues and rate them from 1-11, 1 being the virtue that needs the biggest improvement. Mine were the following:

  1. Specialized knowledge
  2. Courage
  3. Taking initiative
  4. Enthusiasm
  5. Decisiveness
  6. Imagination
  7. Self-control
  8. Discipline
  9. Persistence
  10. Well-organized
  11. Pleasing personality

I am diligently working around the clock of honing my skills of talking to prospects effectively. I believe I’ve been through a lot of material, but I’m still in the process of perfecting skills and applying principles. Ever since about one and a half years, I’ve learned about New Thought, and how to leverage the workings of the human mind. Before all this, I wasn’t much of a man of courage. I’ve learned to be brave now. It’s been challenging, but very rewarding at the same time. Much like the bravery, I was struggling with being a leader. I’ve been put in leading positions before when I had to complete school projects with fellow students, when I was a captain on a basketball team. Most of the team, I had trouble rallying groups, because I was a good who had a tendency to defer to others myself. This time around, I’m making sure that people follow my example by doing the main thing that gets me and gets them success effectively.

My father always told me make decisions. “Stop being hesitant and stop beating around the bush.” Decisiveness was a virtue I did see in other people. I figured if I can model myself after people who make decisions and roll with them, I could be a decisive person myself. When I was a kid, I used to imagine and dream a lot, which means I would stay home and not go outside a lot. I would have crazy fantasies and imaginations, but as I grew older, this started to decrease a little. Thanks to the Master Key System, my imagination is getting re-amped daily and I get to have even better thoughts and dreams than ever before!

As I grow to be more aware, I also grow to be more self-controlled. I remember when every time someone would say something bad about me, that I would get furious and have this uncontrollable urge to “get even” or “settle the score”. In the early part of this course, I’ve learned to let go. Let go of any resentment I might have and take control of my thoughts and actions. I was a very auto-didactic person, meaning that I learned a lot of things by myself. Now I know that it’s all about learning from people who have “been there and done that”. These people have the results and the disciple to keep doing the traction points necessary to be successful in their endeavor. I do feel that once I master a new skill, that I do a good job of being disciplined, even if it might be pain. With NARC, it makes things a whole lot easier. My pain threshold is pretty high. I associate anything that might need persistence to the rigorous trainings I had when playing basketball and working out. A good friend of mine said that “pain is mental” and that “you should get a reward for what you’re persisting through”. At the time, I couldn’t understand much of the second thing he told me, but now I know that all he wanted me to do was think about the outcome of the hard work I’m putting in.

It’s nice to hear at home that my room is tidy, and when my room isn’t, that it would take about a minute to get things in place. I feel as though I’ve always been a very well-organized person, whether it’s with paperwork, tools, clothes etc. Last but not least, the virtue that I need the least amount of improvement on: having a pleasing personality. I’ve been pleasing to a fault at times. Sometimes even borderline naïve. I’m very trusting, I care having people’s questions answered and needs met. My friends always told me I was a “nice guy”, sometimes even a “push over”. I learned to be more an aggressor thanks to some of my sports coaches. When I started out in business, my first mentor taught me right away how to be business-minded, meaning that when you do business, all parties have to benefit from a transaction. Thanks to the lessons I’ve learned, I’ve managed to maintain a balance of “going for mine” and give pleasant services to others.

Which brings me to what me and all the MK members have been doing the past week. We focused our collective efforts on sharing with each other at least two kind acts per day that we’ve either done or witness someone else doing. The result: more than 2500 posts focusing on kindness and doing good. The more we give kindness away, the more we receive it.

Here’s a good example of what I’m talking about. Courtesy of one of my fellow MKMMA members Darren Sanford.

Unconditional kindness. Giving kindness without reason. Knowing that karma – the Law of Growth – will return to you kindness. Living without fear. That’s what it’s all about.

Mohammed Al Rubaiy

Week 14 – Peace Be The Journey

This is what “Cool Runnings” means. Cool Runnings (1993) is what this week’s post is all about. I consider myself a stoic person. I just see things for what they are without showing lots of emotion. Not often do I shed tears at anything, but this time I cracked. This movie’s got me good! I cried. Then rewinded. And cried again. And loved every second of it.

The movie

Loosely based on a true story, the movie depicts Jamaica’s first ever participation as a bobsleigh team during the 1988 Winter Olympics in Calgary.

Caption: Cool Runnings. Copyright: Disney.

Searching for a coach

In 1987, Irving “Irv” Blitzer (John Candy) –  a former two-time bob sled gold medalist – retired to Jamaica in shame, because he was disqualified for hiding weights in front of his sled to make it go faster. He now works as a bookmaker in Jamaica, struggling to make ends meet. Track runner Derice Bannock (Leon Robinson), who lost the sprint to qualify for the 1988 Summer Olympics due to being tripped, decided to switch sports. Determined to still participate in the Olympics one way or another, Derice opted to do the thing that his father refused to do 20 years ago: form the first Jamaican bobsleigh team. [Definite Major Purpose]

Derice convinced push cart champion and friend Sanka Coffie (Doug E. Doug). They went together to the man who tried to convince Derice’s father into bobsledding two decades earlier: Irv Blitzer.

Forming the team & raising money for the Olympics

Irv declines at first, but after some persuasion, he agrees to take on the challenge. After all, this is his chance to finally coach the first Jamaican bobsled team ever. Now that they Derice and Sanka have a coach, they still need two more athletes to join them.

“Gentlemen, a bobsled is a simple thing.”
– “Yeah, so is a toilet.”

While presenting the opportunity to a room full of Jamaicans, only two were interested: sprinter Junior Bevil (Rawle D. Lewis) who wants to represent his country as an Olympic athlete and Yul Brenner (Malik Yoba), also a sprinter, who wanted to leave the country. [Mastermind Alliance]

Now that the whole team is assembled, they need $20,000 to compete in the Olympics. They couldn’t arrange for any sponsors, because a sports team from a tropical island trying to compete in a winter sport made everyone laugh. The team members try a number of other things to raise the funds, such as hosting a kissing booth and panhandling on the street. [Plan of Action]

Because they came up way too short, they wanted to throw in the towel. All of a sudden, Junior shows up and delivers a bag full of money, enough for them to go to Canada and compete in the Games. He explained that he sold his own car.

In Canada

The fellas fly over to Calgary without a bobsled. After pleading for help from an old acquaintance of his, he gets to borrow a used American practice sled. Up until now, the team has only practiced in a cart without wheels, not an actual sled, while other countries’ national teams have professional ones. The Jamaican foursome was not welcomed with open arms by their competitors nor by the spectators.

“We’re different. People are always afraid of what’s different.”

Following a fight at a bar with the team from East-Germany, the Jamaicans regroup and prepare themselves with resolve and better judgment, in order to have a chance to qualify. [Positive Mental Attitude]

“I see pride! I see power! I see a bad-ass mother who don’t take no crap off of nobody!”

They need to finish with a track time of less than 60 seconds. They finish with 59.46, qualifying for the competition.

“A gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you’re not enough without one, you’ll never be enough *with* one.”

Let the Games Begin!

Before the competition started, the Jamaicans earned their very own professional bobsled. They called it “Cool Runnings”, which meant “peace be the journey”. On its first day of racing, the team ended at last place. This is coming off a routine they had mimicking the style of the Swiss national team, which Derice said was the best team.

The day afterwards, while taking on a style of their own – a Jamaican style – the team drastically improved its performance and went up to eight place.

“All I’m saying, mon, is if we walk Jamaican, talk Jamaican, and *is* Jamaican, then we sure as hell better bobsled Jamaican.”

On the final run, the team started out breaking a record time and wow everyone watching. As they were gaining even more speed, a blade in the sled breaks off, and the sled totally flips over. It slides to a halt moments before the reach the finish line, and all became quiet. The team crawls out of their sled, picks it up and walks it across the finish line as the spectators slowly start clapping and cheering wildly, resulting in me shedding tears. Before the credits roll, the film notes that the Jamaican bobsled team returned to their country “as heroes”. Four years later, they returned to the Olympics “as equals”.

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Recap

Very inspiring story. Just goes to show that you can do ANYTHING you set your mind to. The message that I picked up from this movie is: “You are enough.” We are all enough. We have more than enough potential for any endeavor.

Winning is the focal point in this movie. Anyone can win if he/she has a definite major purpose, backed up by the right plan of action to achieve it, a positive mental attitude to do it and a mastermind alliance to support it.

“Feel the rhythm! Feel the rhyme! Get on up! It’s bobsled time! COOL RUNNINGS!”

Peace be the journey,

Mohammed Al Rubaiy