Week 8 – Presenting to the Subby

Just a quick experience share here.

Like most people, I used to feel bad about myself for the countless mistakes, failures and shortcomings I’ve had in my life. So much so that I developed an addiction to those debilitating feelings. Last year I learned that “every adversity has the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit”, as Napoleon Hill said. At first it didn’t seem plausible to me, but as time went by, I understood why he said that. That “seed” of an equivalent or greater benefit is a lesson. It’s the seeds (lessons) that till the soil (mastery).

So I simply made an inventory of my lessons and re-examined my goals.

In week 5, I mentioned the first of my SMART goals: shedding 12 kg (26.5 lbs) within 3 months. In just 3 weeks, I’m already down 4 kg (8.8 lbs). It’s great to be ahead of schedule, but what’s working for me? About a month and half ago, I presented to my subconscious mind the idea of me being in world-class shape. I now do this every day by ways of active and passive suggestion. For example, sitting for 15 minutes, thinking about the future self. Another example, looking at and touching the SMART goal filled Colored Shapes mentioned in Week 7’s post. These are just tidbits from the list of daily things we do in the MKMMA experience to harness our potential.

For slimming down, I always had the right programs, methods and advices. I knew what to do and how to do it, but I never knew how to make that consistency ease for me. Thanks to what I’m learning recently, I’ve been able to pepper my mind with suggestions that trigger feelings of achieving my life’s authentic desires. It’s so amazing, it goes beyond the “life hack” level!

Some people may know, that it takes 3-4 weeks to build a habit. I coupled what I learned recently with my general knowledge of behaviors. In the Influencer by Joseph Grenny, it’s explained that focusing on results is not effective. Focusing on behaviors however is effective. Normally folks try to create a whole washing list of do’s and don’ts. I used to do that too. This time, it’s just 3 vital behaviors (do’s) to execute every day. One hour walk (got rid of my bycicle, I only walk now), 3 liters of water, 6-7 healthy meals. Basketball practices/games are the extra mile. I have no clue what the in between results are daily, but I do know that the behaviors are getting me there way ahead of time.

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Week #7- Understanding fear through meditation.

A true masterpiece by Maria Khakhalkina.

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“Fear is false evidence appearing real” Zig Ziglar.

Fear…will be the topic of this blog. It is a huge topic and it is possible to discuss it for days, connecting it with different events in life, mental, physical and spiritual health or disease for that matter, state of mind and learned limitations, Should’s and Should-not’s, procrastinations and other habits that goes under the same roof, low self-esteem, lack of faith & courage, indecisiveness, anger, worrying, separation and that list can go on and on and on for hours…

Can you even imagine what this fear does to our Self? What it pushes us to create in that fearful state of mind? How many fears we learn already in our early childhood, and how all of it becomes so close to us and we start believe it is our own thoughts and even worse – that it is true.

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Week 7 – No, My Future Self Is My Best Friend!

You may have heard that karma is: “What goes around, comes around.” It’s really deeper than that. Karma is understanding that we all make decisions. Even indecision is a decision. Each and every decision has a consequence. “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction”, science says. Last week, thanks to T.A. Pychyl’s study Solving the Procrastination Puzzle, we discovered how fMRI’s revealed that we see our future self as a stranger, so we procrastinate investing in things that’ll benefit us in the future, because our future self a total stranger. So when we put off the things that we don’t want to do, we’re giving the problem to our future self. In this Masker Key experience, we’ve learned how to help ourselves by developing passive ways to ourselves create and develop intimacy with our respective future selves, eliminating procrastination. Our brains now recognize the benefit of being best friends with our future self.

The karmic questions we ask ourselves:

  • What are the consequences of the choice I’m making?
  • Will this choice bring fulfillment and happiness to me and those affected by this choice (future self)?

We started last week in earnest with shapes, colors and SMART goals (scheduled, measurable, achievable, realistic and timed). These colored shapes were taped around our houses, work offices and cars, all placed in areas of which we have most of our vision directed to. We’ve already started that environment to develop intimacy with our future selves. This environment we set up is one where we and our future selves can meet in the present, become acquaintances with each other and with consistency become friends. Once that future self is a real, genuine friend, something really special happens – way past eliminating procrastination. There’s an old saying: “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” We will lay down our lives for our future self. Eventually we will lay down our lives of limitation we currently have (“Lives of quiet desperation”, according to Henry Thoreau). We will let our old self (Old Blueprint) die for the higher self (New Blueprint) we were always intended to be. “It is by dying that one awakens to eternal life.”

Week 6 – My Future Self Is a Stranger?!

You might have noticed my Week 6 blog is late. I’m being honest. I’ve procrastinated. This should have been posted last week. Felt horrible for a few days, but I’m digging in, and it feels great to be back on track.

Learned some bombshell information last week!!!

Let’s talk about why we proscrastinate.

So why do we procrastinate? Well, because we are emotional beings, we want to avoid feeling negative emotions evoked by an undesirable task or something else that’ll delay us from doing what we want to do. In simple terms: we feel bad about unpleasant tasks.

A few blogs before I talked about delay gratification, and how utterly difficult it is to do that in a fast paced, instant gratification society. One thing I know about myself is that I’m a good writer, but that doesn’t mean that I like doing it. So I delay it.

It gets worse. What we’re really doing is, we give this problem to our future self. That person that we’re all trying to become. In this remarkable study Solving the Procrastination Puzzle by Timothy A. Pychyl, it’s found that fMRI’s were tested on a few people. At the time, they were asked to think about the following 3 things:
– their present self;
– a stranger; and
– their future self.

Here’s the bombshell!

The subjects saw their respective future self exactly the same as a stranger!

WOW!!!

Our future self, the person who we all affirm ourselves into becoming. The incredible ideal person we want to be. A complete stranger?!!

Thus we procrastinate investing in things that’ll advance our values and help us in the future, because our future self is a total stranger! We basically ask ourselves: “What’s in it for us to help this stranger?”

Picture this: somebody you completely don’t know contacts you and asks you if you can assist him/her in fixing his/her car. Would you do it…? For a stranger…? Most likely, you wouldn’t.

How about your best friend? Somebody you know and love. Would you help fix his/her car? Most probably you would.

Here’s the killer.

Now, what if the person who holds the master key to all your life’s dreams, wishes and desires is in need of help. Would you help him/her? You bet you would!

That person, is your future self.

Of course you’re going to help him/her. Why delay, when it’s worth it in gold? You’d be doing it instantly!

I’ve known for a long time that this is what helped me get over the gratification thing and actually get stuff done. I just didn’t know how to put it in words. Now I’m able to illustrate it in a blog post. I’m more than priviledged to call my future self my best friend! This is the feller to please, as mentioned in the Guy in the Glass.

Every now and then I tend to forget what the theme of this blog is. It’s to unfold the authentic self within. Procrastination is just a product from the world without. I’ve been dwelling in that place for a little too long last week. Now I’m right back in the world within, we’re I can talk to my future self. He’s rooting for me!

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Week 5 – Picking Up the Pace

No Opinions

We’ve completed over a month of the 6 month MKMMA course. Think are starting to speed up.

As each day passes, each one of us is becoming more and more of a non-judgemental Observer. Many exercises are being completed. The compounding effect is taking place. Last week we gave up giving 80-90%. From now on, we give 100%, with complete fidelity to the process of being self-directed thinkers.

One of the key exercises for Week 5 was the No Opinion exercise. Just like how it’s called, we are to be conscious of our urge to dish out opinions. The only exception is when we are experts on the subject at hand. Anything else? Give it gracious thought and live and let live. I myself have had ups and downs with this particular exercise, since I’m trying to restrain a 20+ year old habit and replace it with an embryonic new habit – one of self-control and observation. It’s been a fight, but without challenge, there’s no change, and day by day I’m getting better at it. More on this in the next post.

Law of Compensation

As I paraphrase what’s stated in the essay written by the great Ralph Waldo Emerson, the Law of Compensation is omnipresent. It’s can be summarized as: “Give more, get more.”

Whenever you blurt out a knee-jerk opinion, you meet a compensatory response – an opinion back. You smile at somebody, and that person smiles back. You exert hard work, and the fruits of that labor appear before your very eyes. In my case, I play a lot of basketball. You may have heard of the old saying: “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” I have some excess weight I want to shed within the next 3 months to prevent my legs from being overworked: 12 kg (26.5 Ibs).

Since two weeks ago, I’ve been taking one hour walks daily, coupled with eating healthy meals and drinking 3 liters of water. I already get lots of cardio from playing ball. Soon I’ll jump on the spin bike to do some HIIT. I’ve gotten rid of a few pounds, which is exciting, but expected. Now I know I’m stating the obvious, but everybody knows that success is something you get in return for what you’ve given to achieve it (“give more, get more”). What people don’t realize is, that success therefore is simply a compensation. This insight should make it easier to understand how to achieve your SMART (scheduled, measured, achievable, realistic & timed) goals, because you now know that a compensation is expected for what you give.

Keep giving to keep growing.